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Posted on August 8, 2015 at 11:27 PM
I have to admit that this past month I’ve felt a little empty of words.

I do keep remembering snippets from our workshop with Tony Attwood though so I will share another one here.

Tony shared with us that for there to be any hope of change or improvement in our relationships, our AS partners must at least make some acknowledgement that there is a problem and be motivated to learn.  He said that it is not necessary to achieve a diagnosis of Asperger’s Syndrome, but there must be some acknowledgement of and willingness to learn about AS.

Many partners find that their AS partner completely refuses to acknowledge or discuss the matter.  And many find that if they try to push it, the reaction or meltdown is not worth it.

Where does this leave us?  In many ways, the AS adult’s response is strategic for them because it ensures they can maintain their position.

Perhaps this gives you the freedom and right to choose your own position in response?

I really think the only way to make a shift is to stop talking and trying to explain the problem (which they often take as a personal attack), and just start “doing”.  Not with malice or retaliation, just purposeful action.

Choose your responses.  Act.  Calmly and firmly, without any fanfare.  Stop waiting for neurotypical responses from them.  Say what you are going to do and do it.  Use logic, “cause and effect”.  Remind yourself of your own values and begin to live in a way that is true to yourself.  It will take some courage.  Make some ultimatums or trade-offs with your partner, one at a time.  You do not have to tolerate bad behaviour.  It is ok to leave the room or leave the house.  In general it is futile trying to reason with them.

Save your energy, acknowledge your reality, choose your response and follow through.  Take your time.  In many ways it will be like a conditioning process and in time you may find you’ve achieved more than you thought you could.

Always seek professional help or make sure someone knows whether you’re ok or not.

May 2015

Categories: Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder) in Relationships

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